Telling neighbours about renovation: costing it honestly
If you have already tried telling neighbours about renovation and dropped it, the fault is usually in the setup: a starting point set too high, an…
Solving a pet nuisance: costing it honestly
Let us set the limits of solving a pet nuisance first: it reliably improves never hunting for things, and it does not deliver overnight. Anything…
Where parking disputes end: for people with no spare time
Put where parking disputes end back into a real week, with overtime, travel and days you cannot be bothered. Any plan that only survives good months…
Channels for talking to management: when a professional should step in
Put channels for talking to management back into a real week, with overtime, travel and days you cannot be bothered. Any plan that only survives good…
What a residents' committee does: how to start and how to keep it
Let us set the limits of what a residents' committee does first: it reliably improves a month end that reconciles, and it does not deliver overnight.…
Organising a group order: the long game versus the quick fix
Anyone who has spent time on organising a group order has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This is not…
Risks of shared childcare: for people with no spare time
Let us set the limits of risks of shared childcare first: it reliably improves a month end that reconciles, and it does not deliver overnight.…
Using shared spaces: how to tell you are doing it right
If you only read one paragraph, read this: using shared spaces depends on how the situation is set up, not on how you feel at the time. Arrange the…
Rules for parcel collection: only a few moves matter
Anyone who has spent time on rules for parcel collection has a failure story: a strong start, a collapse in the middle, then silence. This is not…
Coordinating a lift retrofit: when a professional should step in
If you only read one paragraph, read this: coordinating a lift retrofit depends on how the situation is set up, not on how you feel at the time.…
Limits of neighbourly help: how to tell you are doing it right
Separate two things in limits of neighbourly help: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the action…
Preventing objects thrown from height: how to start and how to keep it
Advice on preventing objects thrown from height tends to split in two: impossibly complex, or sold as one click. Reality sits between. It needs some…
Effects of subdivided flats: the wrong order wears you out
Separate two things in effects of subdivided flats: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the action…
Joining community events: the wrong order wears you out
Most people do not fail at joining community events from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the doing…
Looking out for an older neighbour: the version that fits a real home
Separate two things in looking out for an older neighbour: the outcome you want and the action you can sustain. When the gap is too wide, shrink the…
When a dispute escalates: when a professional should step in
Most people do not fail at when a dispute escalates from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the doing…
Managing a rented-out unit: the long game versus the quick fix
Let us set the limits of managing a rented-out unit first: it reliably improves never hunting for things, and it does not deliver overnight. Anything…
Mapping local resources: how to start and how to keep it
Let us set the limits of mapping local resources first: it reliably improves fewer household arguments, and it does not deliver overnight. Anything…
Volunteering locally: for people with no spare time
Most people do not fail at volunteering locally from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the doing…
Settling into a long-term home: costing it honestly
Most people do not fail at settling into a long-term home from misunderstanding it. They fail because understanding is not doing. What follows is the…